There, their, they're. Where, wear. Pear, pair. See, sea. Homonyms are words that sound the same but have different meanings. Why can't we plug in the correct phrases when it comes to our experiences? I love you. I have love for you. I'm in love with you. I wanna have sex with you. I wanna make love to you. I want to hang out. I want to spend time with you.. modern day homonyms. Once upon a time I believed these apples fell from the same tree. Real world scenarios cut the entire tree for me.
"I have love for you" stems from a friend perspective. It is the least painful way to let someone know you value them but don't want to pursue anything more. I will paint the picture of a friend hoping to become closer while I was vulnerable. The night you hugged me goodbye longer than usual I was hoping you wouldn't put me in the position to reject you. I know you thought "Her peripheral vision is on point!" When it came to you crossing the line it was. Is it true the quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else? Hearing the quote from other friends didn't spark an interest. Instead, I imagined worst case scenarios. What if I called you someone else's name? Or imagine you being someone else? There's a bold line between "I love you" and "I'm in love with you". It's the love you feel for family and siblings versus loving someone so much you refuse to live without them. You cannot function without this specific person.
What is the first thought that crosses your mind when you hear the words "make love"? You're first time, chemistry, rose pedals, passion, candles, everlasting love. There is no pressure, it is natural. We don't chose who we fall for, do we have control over who we make love with? Do you have to be in love with someone to make love? The urge to get off without attachment can be described as sex, in my opinion. Sex doesn't always have to be with someone we truly care about. We give in to quickies when we desire the presence of another instead of our own body heat rubbing one out. If you've experienced both, you know which you're having.
You could be in the house all day or going to the movies just to get fresh air. It doesn't matter where you end up because there's no expectations. Hanging out is casual, don't wear your favorite underwear. "I want to spend time with you" is much more personal. It doesn't matter the activity, I want to do it alongside you. I look forward to having meaningful, intellectual conversation. Spending time in my opinion is unraveling the exterior. To become adept with what matters most, the interior.